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Teenagers are amazing says new book

Recipe for happy families: Being understood, communicated with and connected to parents is, says mother and author Rachel Kelly, the best immunisation against using digital devices for social connection.

Should parents stop worrying so much? Author and mother of five Rachel Kelly thinks adolescents have valuable lessons to teach the rest of society.

What’s happening?

According to new research, one in five young people in the UK experiences a mental health problem in any given year, and the situation is getting worse.

A new book, The Gift of Teenagers, argues that parents might be part of the problem, and that if they can learn to control their own emotions, they will raise more resilientTough or able to cope with difficulty. teenagers.

Author and mental health expert Rachel Kelly shares the lessons she has learnt from raising five teenagers.

These include 20 tips “to make your teen hate you less”, from using breathing exercises to stay calm, to setting a good example by limiting personal phone use, and letting teenagers sleep in late.

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If parents can learn to work with teenagers, rather than against them, says Kelly, then they will worry less about things like bullying in classrooms or social media addiction.

According to the American psychologist Jonathan Haidt, parents have become over-protective. Childhood is no longer “play-based” but “phone-based,” which means young people grow up defensive and insecure.

Kelly argues that adolescence is an adventure that teenagers and their parents can experience together.

Should parents stop worrying so much?

Some say

Yes! Anxious parents create anxious children. Let adolescent boys and girls become more independent and they will develop higher levels of resilience and responsibility.

Others think

No! Teenagers are in crisis and social media, the pandemic, the economy and the environment are much more responsible for the problem than parents.

Keywords

Resilient – Tough or able to cope with difficulty.


 

  • Some people say

    • “You don’t have to suffer to be a poet; adolescence is enough suffering for anyone.”
    • John Ciardi (1916 – 1986), American poet
    What do you think? 
  • Dive in deeper

    • ▶️ Watch author Rachel Kelly discusses Britain’s mental health crisis. GB News (2:18)
    • ▶️ Here’s a new theory on the adolescent mental health crisis. Edutopia (2:28)

Six steps to discovery

  1. Connect

    How do you feel about this story?

    When you think about your parents, what do you feel? Love, annoyance, anxiety — or something else?

  2. Wonder

    What questions do you have?

    For example: What changes are taking places in the brains of teenagers during adolescence? On average, are teenagers more or less happy than any other age groups? 

  3. Investigate

    What are the facts?

    Pick out one thing we know for certain about this story and one thing we cannot say for sure. 

  4. Construct

    What is your point of view?

    Do you agree that it has never been more difficult to be a teenager? Write a brief essay arguing for or against this point of view?

  5. Express

    What do others believe?

    In groups, come up with five more suggestions for parents to help them get on better with their teenage offspring. 

  6. Reflect

    What might happen next?

    Imagine that the government proposed banning social media for anyone under 16. Write a newspaper article set 10 years from now, describing whether the ban was successful and what it achieved.